Tony Robbins Relationship Tool

I’ve been revisiting some Tony Robbins talks lately.  I think Tony Robbins is brilliant and has a Brooke Castillo-like ability to get right to the root of people’s issues.  However, to be perfectly honest, his ‘rah-rah’ enthusiasm can be a bit much for me after a while and these thoughts lead to me go for long stretches not following him or listening to him.

However, I recently was led to an on-line event that Tony Robbins hosted and he gave a talk about relationships in which he brought up a concept that I had never heard before.  It is called Ho’oponono which is a Hawaiian practice of reconciliation and forgiveness. He uses it in his relationship by saying the phrase, “I’m sorry. I love you. Please forgive me. Thank you.”

I immediately began to think about relationships and how to use this phrase.  It seems that it could be used whenever there is tension, an argument, a disagreement.  Could it be used at times to step back and admit that something has gone wrong but is doesn’t matter who is to blame here?  That perhaps both parties are to blame?

I have been thinking a lot about the use of this concept.  I will try to use it in my own relationships and will check back to report on the results.  I’d also love to hear from anyone who is willing to let me know your take on this and any experiences you have with it.  My e-mail address is: and I welcome any thoughts you are willing to share.