The question that totally changed my marriage for the better is SO WHAT? If this doesn’t make sense to you, it might help you to ask yourself a slightly different question: SO WHAT AM I MAKING THAT MEAN?
Asking this question of yourself helps show you that you have the power to choose the thoughts that create the story spinning in your brain. Do you want your brain to look for evidence of negative things or would you prefer to think thoughts that help you feel positive and empowered? How do you show up when you spin a negative story and what results do you get? You get to tell the story–do you want it to be wonderful and amazing or terrible and awful?