When you feel like you need to take a step forward with your relationship, you’re not sure what to do, or you just feel stuck and unable to move in another direction, asking yourself these 2 simple questions after identifying your possible courses of action can be extremely helpful in getting ‘unstuck.’
Question #1:
If I could be happy with either option, which would I choose?
It is important to recognize that there is no ‘right’ choice. There are pros and cons with every decision and there is no single decision that will bring you complete happiness. For example, if you are trying to decide whether or not you should divorce your spouse, ask yourself this question and of course, I HIGHLY recommend working with a marriage coach to help you navigate through what’s going on in your brain and get clarity on it.
Question #2:
Do I like my reason why?
It is equally important to ask yourself this question. Does your reason have to do with lack or fear? Is your reason because you think that one decision is better than the other? Does your reason have anything to do with other people’s opinions? Make sure that you investigate WHY you are making this decision are completely comfortable with the reason behind it.
All the best to you with your decision making and one last bit of info: NOT making a decision and staying stuck in what I like to call the “I don’t know” stage IS in fact, making a decision. Don’t indulge in confusion and stay stuck!